Self-confidence is one of those traits we all seem to chase after but seldom feel as though we have mastered. This is especially true when it comes to boosting your confidence in the bedroom. That’s why the sexual enhancement industry has done so well – providing men with ways to give them that boost between the sheets. While products like penis extenders and herbal supplements have given many men the boost they need, there are some natural ways you can boost your sexual self confidence without using any special equipment. Here we’ll take a look at 5 effective Do It Yourself confidence boosters.
1. Hit the Books!
You may have spent plenty of time working on your technique, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can learn from the old masters. Grab a copy of Kama Sutra, the Joy of Sex or more specialized sex manuals and do some homework. The sex manual genre has exploded in recent years and it’s easier than ever to find a book that fits your current style perfectly. Whether you enjoy a bit of bondage or want to learn more about tantric sex, there are books that can take you from the first step all the way to become an expert.
2. Get Into Some Strength Training
Nothing takes the wind out of your sails like huffing and puffing a few minutes into having sex. Focus on core strength training at the gym or as a part of your home workout. Increasing your stamina will help give you greater confidence and can help with the new positions you’ll be learning about. The extra exercise will also help you trim down and get fit, both of which can impact your self-image and, of course, your overall levels of self-confidence.
3. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Sex should be about fun, so if you find yourself focusing a bit too much or putting pressure on yourself to perform perfectly, it’s time to blow off some steam. Make foreplay fun and don’t be afraid to laugh with your partner. After all, sometimes sex is funny and letting yourself enjoy those aspects of it makes the experience all the better. Use role play ideas, adult games and toys and other accessories to make sex play a bit more playful. It can help alleviate stress over performance issues and can also enhance the entire experience for you both.
4. Make Sex a Collaboration
Sex isn’t just about what you can do for your partner – it’s about what you do with your partner. That means making sex a truly collaborative effort. Opening the lines of communication to discuss your sex life openly and honestly may seem a bit awkward at first, but it can result in some pretty amazing benefits. Simply discussing your sex life gives you a chance to talk about problems you might be having but, more importantly, it gives you the chance to discuss fantasies, ideas and even spark some new and creative ways to have fun between the sheets.
5. Lose Those Negative Thoughts
Negativity may be the biggest bedroom killer in the world. Whether you focus on imperfections in your partner or simply obsess about your own – it’s time to get that monkey off your back! If you find yourself obsessively shopping for a penis extender or other enhancement device, try tabling the purchase for awhile. Talk to your partner about her levels of satisfaction to see if enhancement devices are even worth considering – she may just want some more foreplay. Focus on the positive aspects of your relationship and your time in bed and sooner or later, your brain will fall into line.
These simple steps can help improve your self confidence and when practiced as a couple, can improve your relationship. Working to make sex more fun and talk openly about what you want and what you’d like to try are great ways to enhance your sex life and get more confident. Sexual confidence is as much about a healthy approach to sex as it is about accepting yourself. Getting into a habit of self-acceptance and healthier approaches to sex in general can give you the satisfaction and confidence you need in and out of the bedroom.
